The relationship we most jump into are the ones that make us feel good, loved, sexy, giggly, and special. Is this love though or are they just emotions that we let lead us?
Okay, so a boy and girl get together, they like the way the other one looks, smells, feels, and that warm and fuzzy feeling comes along. Now we think this must be love so is it?
We need to have a mental meter that will keep track of how much time is spent together, how much information is shared, and gauge if their words match their actions. It takes time to get to know someone. You must experience them, learn to trust them, and see if they are who they say they are.
I'm not an expert on relationships but there is a relationship that I've been pursuing. I've been listening to what words are used, what I am like after we spend time together, and not only do I pay attention to my feelings but my actions.
I know what I want, but I know God wants to give me and I need His best.
I've been spending a lot of time with God lately and recognizing the love relationship I have with Him. I know I love Him and I know He loves me. What I didn't recognize was that this is a 'relationship.'
I work with girls and I continuously tell them to seek a relationship with God first and become familiar with what HE says about them. I didn't realize until now that this is a 'love relationship' I am encouraging them to seek after.
God is forever at work in our lives and we are usually too busy to notice. We want what we want. We tell God to meet us where we want changes in our lives. We tell God what needs to change instead of listening to God and hearing what He says what needs to change. We didn't speak the stars into existence, we didn't tell the sun where to stand in the morning or the moon at night. Who are we tell God what to do?
When was the last time you met a gentleman; a true gentleman? He is the one that doesn't push you into a relationship but pursues you. He treat you with respect and loyalty.
God is this gentleman. Woman, you need to be so hidden in Christ the man has to go to Christ to get to you. In another era, boys had to go to the girl's father to ask them out on a date or even ask for the girls hand in marriage. Daddy's don't do this anymore.
My Father God does though. I've become so close to Christ that I want the man to go to Christ and ask for His permission. Why? Because God knows what kind of man I need in my life. Jehovah Jireh knows what kind of partner and helper I need in my life.
Oh, the flesh rears it's ugly head, but it's better to die to flesh than get into trouble down the road.
I share this because I see young girls on the corner hugging and playing with the boy who's interested in her. She laughs and giggles at him while he is whispering in her ear, touching her butt ever so casually, but none the less is doing it. Where has the self respect gone? Who is teaching self respect in today's culture?
Ladies here's a few things you might want to consider:
God loves you just as you are.
He knows what is best for you.
God knows how you long to be loved and desired.
God wants to love you first and be first in your life before a guy.
Be so hidden in Christ that the boy has to go to your Papa and ask for permission.
Modest is Hottest. No, hanging out of your shirt or shorts are not pretty it says "easy" and leads to torment in your life.
Aretha Franklin said it best "R E S P E C T yourself!"
When you don't respect yourself, you lose yourself, and it leads to other problems such as abuse, rape, motherhood, prostitution, and drugs.
RESPECT YOURSELF and others will respect you too.
~Marjorie
