"Can you hear the words that are coming out of my mouth?"

Sometimes we just say something without really thinking about the consequences.
 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.
Proverbs 18:21
Do we speak to give wisdom, correction, or encouragement? Before we speak will our words help or hurt someone? It is important for us to know what words we are speaking. It is important to think before we speak.
Recently, I have found myself crying and not knowing why. I will be in the drive-thru of Taco Bell and start crying: not listening to the song on the radio or deep in my thoughts. I just begin crying. I begin to ask myself, am I depressed? Is the season getting to me? Why am I crying?
So, I decided to call Hospice of the Nature Coast. The woman came on the phone and I began to cry. I just started blubbering words through my tears. She was telling me I was grieving. The lady on the phone started explaining how normal I was (think of it me normal-haha!) and I was going to be okay.
I share this because tonight I sat at a church crying and thinking that when people see me cry, what will I say?  How will they react? If I tell them I am grieving, will they then hug my neck and I start to really weep?
I had to take a deep breath and tell myself to stop crying and I will allow myself to continue crying when I get home.
Recently, in our community we have a young family loose their husband and father. We don't know what to say, what words are comforting, what words can I use to say "I am here for you and I love you." What words can I say that will get my point across that I really do understand your loss? Sometimes we can't say anything. We don't want to hurt them more than they are already hurting. We just want to put our arm around them and love on them, but don't want to infringe on their space.
Next, someone is spreading their life all over the canvas of others. We don't think that our words could be hurting someone else, or even hurting ourselves. We just want someone to listen to our pain, so we tell everyone; everything. Are our words edifying ourselves and others or are they bringing us and them down?
How often to do we listen to the words coming out of our mouths? How close do we listen to other's words coming out of their mouth? How often do we even listen and care about what we say; we just want to be heard.
So, if you see me on the street crying, just know I am okay. When you are about to hold a conversation with someone, think about what you are saying to them. Please make sure it is peaceful, loving, and edifying them or yourself.
The heart of him who has understanding seeks knowledge, but the mouth of fools feeds on foolishness.
Proverbs 15:14