I have learned that an argument is not really an argument. It is an expression, for a woman, to say she is feeling unloved, unheard, and invisible. We just don't know how to express it well.
Most times we are quick to point out what is wrong with the other person. We don't look at the three fingers pointing back at us. Then again, I haven't seen anyone argue with themselves either. Meaning, that is why we have a partner to argue with.
I have learned to let the person know how I feel. Though my feelings may not be factual to the situation, I still feel.
God tells us in Psalm 119; "The unfolding words give light; it gives understanding."
I want there to be understanding among my partner instead of trying to prove who is right and who is wrong.
I have been in some really harsh confrontations. I have learned that the devil wants us to be at war with one another. "I applied my heart to know, to search and seek wisdom and the reason for things. To know the wickedness of folly, even of foolishness and madness."
Ecclesiastes 7:25
I have had enough red face fightings, screaming matches, fist fights to last a lifetime. I am ready to move completely from drama to tranquility discussions.
You may be experiencing heated discussions in your home. There is good news for you here. You don't have to show up for the fight. No you can be at peace with turning away from an unkind word or putting your hand up to not receive the words being spewed out of their mouth.
"There is one who speaks like the piercing of a sword, But the tongue of the wise promotes health." Proverbs 12:18
Times will come when you cannot walk away, but you are in control of your reply.
~be encouraged, you always have a choice to RSVP or decline the offer.
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